i’ve realised how easy it is to lie to people recently. lying is an extremely easy way to avoid being honest. i know that’s not a new revelation for anyone, but the simplicity of it is so much deeper. we lie to people for many reasons – it could be to avoid letting our guard down, to avoid showing them how much they can affect us. we might lie to avoid hurting someone else, so in some ways we think it’s better to keep things going as they are, no matter how bad they are, just for the sake of it. or keep things going as they are because it’s ‘good’ and we don’t want to ruin it. others lie because it’s an addiction, they’re so used to creating an image, so used to trying to not let others down, they need to make up excuses for what they think they’re missing. lying could be done for attention, to make people feel sorry for you when you desperately need it, when you’re feeling low, and lying can be done when you just want to fit in, or are ashamed of who you are.
some people lie as the easy way out, under the illusion that it’s hard. as if lying took so much strength, because you had the intention to be honest but just… couldn’t.
*but*, when you’re honest, when you make the decision to actually put your feelings out there, and tell someone how they made you feel, either good or bad, it’s so much harder, so much more courageous. there is always a bigger risk with being honest than lying. because when you own up to something, like revealing your feelings. and that can change everything. the other person on the receiving end could be happy at what you’ve said, sad, confused, or just pissed off.
but what they need to consider is how hard it was to even get to that stage. i think being honest shows how much someone means to you. it shows your value for them. it displays that you put them on such a high pedestal that they are worth knowing how you feel (even though honesty should always be a given in a perfect world, but in society it’s not that at all unfortunately).
being honest to someone shows you’re ready to risk what you have, for the sake of better communication. and hopefully they react well. hopefully they see you did it, not because you want to change the person, or get something out of it, but because you felt like you needed to communicate how you felt to improve a situation, and they were important enough to you for you to tell them.
never feel bad for wanting to let someone know how you feel. and try not to take any shortcuts in that process.